Who "makes it through" tragedy and difficulty? A talented web dev colleague of mine, Eric Meyer, has been writing through the unspeakable tragedy of the loss of their six year old daughter. I am grateful for the gift of his beautiful writing in the midst of this wretched time.
Extreme events place immense, sometimes overwhelming stress on relationships. There isn't really a formula for who makes it through. "It isn’t strength that keeps a couple together in the face of crisis. It’s having the luck to remain compatible under the most extreme pressures. Like any complex interaction between two complex systems, the outcome is fundamentally unpredictable."